“It is a man suggesting that there are ‘blurred lines’ when it comes to sexual consent and that is unacceptable.”
“since banning the song she has received many emails of support and “not one which comes close to a complaint.”
28 year old French tennis player Marion Bartoli is your 2013 Women’s Singles Wimbledon champion!
That’s Bartoli there on your left. And I’m sure you can see the problem here. You don’t? Oh, that might be because you’re not a BIG SEXIST ASSHOLE. Because, if you were, you’d take one good look at the Wimbledon champ on the left there, then take one good look at the Tennis player next to her, Sabine Lisicki, whom she beat to win the title and realize “THE WIMBLEDON CHAMPION IS NOT A TALL SKINNY BLONDE MODEL LOOKING WOMEN! THIS CAN’T BE!!!!”
If you open the official Wimbledon rule book to page 13405 you’ll see that “Being an official ‘Wimbledon Babe’ in the eyes of Dan over on Twitter” is one of the official qualifications of winning Wimbledon.”
Oh, wait a fucking second. No, it isn’t.
YEAH, BARTOLI. Being the champion of your chosen sport is all about how hot you are and totally not about being the absolute best at said sport. GOD, BARTOLI, WIMBLEDON CHAMPION, LEARN HOW TO PLAY SOME GOD DAMN TENNIS.
Women playing sports is totally useless if said women are not pleasing to the eye. I mean, what’s the point of women playing sports if it isn’t to please the male spectators?
Sadly, these aren’t the comments of a few misogynist shit bags. Hundreds and hundreds of tweets are attacking this girl because they don’t like how she LOOKS…
May the best man win!May the most attractive women win!”
I guess not too surprising to see this one from a dude who calls himself “London’s Stifler.”
"LOL! SHE"S SWEATING AFTER PLAYING SPORTS. WHO DOES THAT?!?!"
haha! A “back to the kitchen” joke! So original! And oddly enough, though, probably the least offensive out of all the Bartoli attacks.
And if you’re a Tennis-watching sexist and the whole “fat slut” this and “ugly face” that started to get a bit boring to you while watching Wimbledon, then you could have apparently focused on Bartoli’s “erect nipples” during the match like seemingly hundreds did…
Disgusting as it is objectifying any girl like this, would these dudes have had a problem with a braless Maria Sharapova running around the Tennis court? Or would they have been clamoring for her to take her top off too?
Before you answer my clearly rhetorical questions, let these fine folks answer it for you…
Oh, and those last few tweets reminded me! Some of these assholes don’t just think Bartoli is an ugly woman, possibly a “dyke-y” lesbian. Some are convinced that if a woman doesn’t fit society’s norms of what’s “hot” AND she is good at sports, well, then DUH! she has to be a MAN! And they’re cool with sexually assaulting her to prove it!
Props to the Twitter account @EverydaySexism for pointing out what was going on. Below are some of the tweets they found:
Personally, I like how this dude felt he needed to @ REPLY TO HER, just to make sure she saw this horrible shit.
On the bright side, when asked about BBC commentator John Inverdale remarks on her “never going to be a looker" (yeah that’s right, she received this shit from the BBC too), Bartoli said:
"It doesn’t matter, honestly. I am not blonde, yes. That is a fact. Have I dreamt about having a model contract? No. I’m sorry. But have I dreamed about winning Wimbledon? Absolutely, yes."
And that’s one of the many actual reasons Marion Bartoli “deserves” to be Wimbledon Champion.
Jon Coumes April 7, 2013
After contending with decades of scorn, geeks are finally at the cool kids’ table. Unless the weird and misogynistic fringes of nerd culture topple it all.
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Only in the modern day would McLovin get laid and not a beating. In years past, playing Dungeons & Dragons was as bad as smoking crack on the after-school special scale of things; today, we’re in the middle of a board game renaissance. In the ’80s, we had the panty- and tech-obsessed flies-on-the-wall in Sixteen Candles who couldn’t imagine talking to a girl; the ’90s gave us Office Space’s Milton Waddams and his stutterous Swingline obsession. On TV, geeks were the butt of the joke—Minkus and Urkel set the standard. Now we’ve got Big Bang Theory topping the charts (bad as it is) and Community’s Abed getting the girl. But it’s all in jeopardy. There’s a sweaty, lonely, sexist underbelly at the grassroots of geekery—the nerds of the nerds—that’s threatening the cool we’ve spent decades cultivating. And thanks to digital interconnectivity, the trolls at the geek fringe are more of a danger to society than they get credit for.
This digital interconnectivity, lauded for its ability to let us group around big issues and cultural petit-fours alike, also gives us anorexia encouragement, cannibalism, Buzzfeed, and guys who get off by climbing naked onto man-sized balloons (seriously, that’s a thing). Web communities become echo chambers where prejudices amplify. It’s like getting all your news from Fox or StormFront—stay long enough and you start believing that white people are just better. Tim Burke, a professor of History at Swarthmore University who studies virtual worlds, says that the Internet gives movements the “ability to snowball with tremendous speed. The emotional feedback is intense.”
Travel to any nerd-dominated forum—SomethingAwful or Life, the Universe, and Everything on GameFaqs—and witness this snowball in action over the “plight” of the nice guy. They listen to their female friends’ problems, going out of their way to be compassionate and are rewarded with friendship instead of sex. Then they get on the Internet and rail against their love interests. Says one Redditor, “Like many of you, I’m just another fucking nice guy. People walk all over me, girls only acknowledge me for favors, and I never ask for anything in return. … I can’t be that asshole that girls like.” “Why,” asks one ‘nice guy’ user, “do girls arbitrarily decide what guy to fuck? Instead of going ‘This guy is funny, smart, and a great person. I think I’ll fuck him,’ they usually decide to fuck some random douchebag with no redeeming qualities instead.” “Smaller brains,” replies one user. “Women are so stupid,” adds another. A third contends that “what it boils down to is the girl is very immature and insecure, among other things … that’s why the feminist movement exists.”
Some fraction of these dudes will “man up” and click over to a Pick-Up-Artist site where they can learn tricks that will totally trick girls into sleeping with them. You might remember how ridiculous the show on VH1 was, but PUA has an army of adherents. On Pick-Up-Artist-Forum.com, one user says he was “hanging out with a HB7 [Hot Babe, 7 out of 10]” and as she’s talking, he begins “wiping [his] face near [his] mouth and looking at her in bewilderment.” When she asks what’s up, he implies that she’s been spitting on him. Why? “Women can’t help but feel embarrassed if they were spitting on you while talking, so technically we are performing a DLV [display low value] on her to make her feel like shit …[it] works wonders.” That’s objectification at its geekiest—as long as you’ve studied, inputs will equal putting out. It’s an attitude that, in these male-dominated corners of the Internet, develops into full-blown misogyny.
Commenters on practically any message board are liable to respond to women with “tits or get the fuck out,” denigrate gays, and video game competitors joke about raping their female opponents during fighting game tournaments and then contend that sort of language is just part of the scene. According to Burke, the justifications are standardized—“they say ‘it’s not really sexist, it’s just the way we talk,’ and that ‘gay doesn’t really refer to homosexuals or imply homophobia.’” Some of that may be true, he says, but the misogyny is undeniable. “You can see it in the intensity of reaction to female voices. That’s real.” When an impressionable loner-geek mixes PUA’s disordered approach to women with the feminist hate and lady-bashing, we lose him and get a Men’s Rights Activist. It’s such a problem that lady nerds launched whole projects just to shed some light on it. Anita Sarkeesian Kickstarted a web-series on misogyny in videogames, and the reaction was so rabidly, vehemently antagonistic that she was able to give a TedxWomen talk about online harrassment, cyber-mobs, and rape culture group-think just based on the experience. Traditional feminists, for their part, haven’t started a counter to the Men’s Rights Movement, because that’s what they’ve been fighting all along.
Geeks may go the other way and join a community of alienation, like ALonelyLife, where a meme about being forever alone meets reality. RealDoll enthusiasts have built up a fraternity wherein it’s acceptable to marry silicone simulacra. Bronies are grown men who love and bond over the cartoon My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic in large part because of how friendly and accepting the pony characters are, how welcoming their world is. Brony communities invented ‘bronyspeak’ and use codes of community-enforced niceness so that ‘nopony’ has to suffer social rejection. Anime ‘waifu’ adherents have rejected the “impurity” of 3D love for the 2D variety. None of these folks are necessarily hurting anyone, but they’re messing with nerdom’s social fabric, pushing it farther away from society at large and making it more repugnant all around.
The corruption of whole swathes of male geekdom is distressing for every nerd with a job and a life who doesn’t need comic book or video game characters to rock a double-D endowment, who’s uncomfortable with widespread mistreatment of women on the web, who knows that right now, the biggest entertainment industry by far is games, and that the coolest job anyone can have is at Google. We had gotten to the point where we could be openly geeky without being stereotyped as neckbearded, sweaty basement-dwellers, but those anime-pillow-loving guys are holding us back.
As the Internet ages, Burke says, we’ll get “people choosing to associate in smaller communities with smaller and more particular cultural or social interests.” The upshot of folks becoming basement-trolls is the loss of their social capital—when contingents of geeks break off from greater nerdery and cloister themselves into increasingly antisocial, niche cliques, they lose the tools to live in society at large, to communicate collectively, and to affect social and political institutions. Burke says that the loss of social capital across a society is the “classic fear among social thinkers,” but it also presents a problem when it’s just chunks of a social demographic. Nerds writ large lose some of their power when factions act poorly (the power that lets us stop bills like CISPA) but that could be the least of their troubles.
What if some of the worst trends of nerdom run amok? Look at Japan—from the groping that’s so endemic in its public spaces that authorities have given up enforcement (they’ve created male/female subways) to vending machines that dispense soiled women’s underwear, something’s gone terribly wrong. They have a pandemic of hikikomori, guys who feel so divorced from the social scene that they leave it altogether for the solitude of their rooms and computers, all born of the same alienation that our nerds engage in. Japanese men are having sex and kids in smaller numbers than they ever have—one in four Japanese men in their 30s are virgins, and have given up on real relationships for videogame women or pillow wives—so much so that it’s a national crisis. Men in the United States have taken a different route, frustrated opprobrium rather than apathy, but the land of the rising sun is proof positive that, whether or not you care if geek is cool, trends like ours can go South like a carpetbagger.
Simone de Beauvoir - Le Deuxième Sexe (via littlecatofwinterfell) —
Carbonite CEO David Friend on why the company is still dropping its advertisements from Rush Limbaugh’s show despite his faux apology.
Bravo to Carbonite and their CEO. More of this, please.
Part of me thinks it’s too soon to be writing about this because I don’t think I’ve completely processed how I feel, but I also think maybe this has happened to other women and I should talk about it in as raw a way as possible. I’m still really embarrassed and ashamed and garbled up inside, but maybe this can start a helpful discussion in terms of women and comedy.
Last night, I was on a stand up show in the East Village. The show started out with a small crowd and the host did an amazing job interacting with them and riling them up. By the time I got on stage, there were about 20 or so more people in the audience and the place had really filled up. The show was still kind of loose because of the back and forth between the host and the audience, so when I got on stage, I riffed a bit about the stuff that had happened before and then talked to one guy on the side of the audience who the host had dubbed “Banana Republic.” All joke-y. All in good fun.
Then, I start my actual set and do my first two jokes, which go pretty okay. I start another joke that is vaguely sexual - not crude, not crass - mainly silly and that goes well too. The next joke I do is about my boyfriend.
At a comedy show, when you’re on stage, usually you can’t see the audience because of the bright lights. So I’m looking into pitch darkness. As I start the joke, someone yells, “Does your boyfriend know?” referring to the sexuality joke I’d just told. I stop, laugh and say that he does because I think it’s just more of the loose environment that’s been going on at this show. I attribute it to an audience member just having fun.
I start to tell the joke about my boyfriend again, and at the midway point, the same voice yells something else derogatory about my boyfriend, homophobic and misogynistic towards me. I stop, confused. I can’t see who is talking to me so I make a HUGE mistake and say, “Sir, if you’re gonna talk to me, you need to come to the front because I can’t see you.” I think calling him out like this will shut him up.
I must admit I feel the same sort of frustrating Onion was expressing in my last reblog in regards people ignore the underlying gender issues in the whole Cat/Jon situation about how the progressive corner of fandom ignore the disability context of Tyrion’s indiscretions and well, the disability representation/exploration angle of his character entirely.
I’m sure most everyone in the fandom knows about Sady Doyle’s length feminist smackdown on the series Enter Ye Myne Mystic World of Gayng-Raype: What the “R” Stands for in “George R.R. Martin” by now. I’ve got be honest, even though I think Ms Doyle starts with a comprehension error on the scale of someone reading Watchmen thinking Rorschach is meant to be a hero in not twigging to the fact much of the series is a subversion of the fantasy/medieval romance genre that’s as critical about many of the same things in fantasy that bother her as she is. BUT still the article is very interesting and makes some good points, but more than it is utterly, utterly hilariously written- I enjoy stuff I like being made fun off and riffed on so I got a kick out of the article to the point I’ve re-read it quite a few time for fun.
…buuuttt looking though the comments section the other day I came across this “The presence of painfully obvious Nerd Identification Characters. (Tyrion and his endless, self-aggrandizing self-pity — he’s so much smarter than everyone else! But hot girls won’t fuck him! And nobody likes him enough! But he’s smarter than everyone else! Everybody SUCKS for not liking/wanting to fuck Tyrion! — is clearly designed to appeal to that specific variety of misogynist nerd who’s convinced that he’s always the smartest guy in the room, and is endlessly bitter that people aren’t sufficiently impressed by him and that women specifically don’t reward his brilliance with constant blow-jobs and praise” she followed it up with some superficial Samwell hate too, and I was so disappointed and, yeah.. it kinda got me mad. It just TOTALLY IGNORES the fact that Tyrion is from a horribly oppressed group too! Just painting him as a privileged whiny “nice guy” really seems to totally erase allll of that and seems kind of borderline disrespectful to the disabled readers (and viewers) to whom Tyrion’s story and struggle means a lot. (accusing victims of child abuse of being self pitying and whiny for having angst and issues about being abused bothers me enough as it is, and I hear it too much about Tyrion and Sam)
That isn’t to say Tyrion isn’t privileged in other ways and shouldn’t be called out on his misogynistic actions and attitudes- I mean the whole of his character arc in ADWD where he’s forced to see first hand what life is like for less-fortunate little people via Penny is all about calling him out for that stuff! I’m not saying people are bad for not liking Tyrion but at least try and look at his story though a lens of disability awareness. Not doing so is just as foolish as not being very aware of gender whilst discussion Cersei, Sansa or Catelyn.